Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Always...
be yourself because the people that matter don't mind and the ones that mind don't matter.
Thursday, October 21, 2010
How young is too young?
The thought has NEVER crossed my mind.... until now. Easy weirdos... He's in his mid-20s.
What's funny is the double standard. I've dated older guys and never thought twice about it. Not even when I was with the "silver fox" kind of guys. I didn't care or think about it really. I even laughed with my friends who joked about it. And I know these older loved to be hanging out with a pretty girl almost two decades younger. What an ego boost!
I don't know why I feel like its wrong to be attracted to a young, good-looking, personable intelligent guy who has great manners. It is so not wrong! F**k that! In fact, big ups to me for still having that kind of pull. That being said, now I know I'm trippin. I'm not trying to marry the guy. He's just super fun to flirt with.
*K*
What's funny is the double standard. I've dated older guys and never thought twice about it. Not even when I was with the "silver fox" kind of guys. I didn't care or think about it really. I even laughed with my friends who joked about it. And I know these older loved to be hanging out with a pretty girl almost two decades younger. What an ego boost!
I don't know why I feel like its wrong to be attracted to a young, good-looking, personable intelligent guy who has great manners. It is so not wrong! F**k that! In fact, big ups to me for still having that kind of pull. That being said, now I know I'm trippin. I'm not trying to marry the guy. He's just super fun to flirt with.
*K*
Sunday, August 1, 2010
10 Things I Can No Longer Pull Off as a Woman in my 30s (Part1)
10 Things I Can No Longer Pull Off as a Woman in my 30s (Part1)
1. Purposefuly tattered mini jean skirts. Like I can fit into anything at American Eagle anymore anyways...
2. Different colored fingernail polish on each fingernail.
3. Posing proudly with a domestic beer can. With any can. With any liquor. Yeah, yeah, yeah, we get it, you can drink...
4. Not apologizing.
5. Pajama bottoms/slippers in public.
6. Pulling all nighters. Oh my god, the eye skin trauma!
to be continued...
JPH
Ten Must DOs for a Gal in her 30s
1. Having some basic manners does wonders. Saying "please" and "thank you" never hurt anybody.
2. Spend good money on that eye cream. It really works!
3. Drink a lot of water, especially before , during, and after you drink alcohol. Its a lifesaver when you have improptu drinks on school nights.
4. Fit in some exercise. Looking good hurts =)
5. Take a vacation!
6. Know when advice is wanted or when a person just wants to vent. Speaking your mind is not always necessary nor welcome.
7. Keep a close, small circle of family members and very good friends. These are the people who really know you and will give you the best advice ever. Plus, its fun to catch up!
8. In most aspects, have no shame in your game! Who the hell cares what other people think. But, if news of your social life gets back to the office.... Uh-oh?!
9. Replace those IKEA pictures on the wall with some art, any art with real character. I’m going to puke if I see the picture with pink daisies on another chic’s wall.
10. Its ok to be into the Hills and the Jersey Shore. For super-busy girls, fun and mindless shows are super entertaining. I’m soooo hooked.
KS
Monday, May 3, 2010
Don't hate, meditate!
I am a snow leopard fighting my way through the snowstorm. Rawr!
Thanks for the advice Rick Ross! This friend shared his freestyle meditation: Pick one animal you like and imagine yourself taking on certain characteristics of that animal. For example, he is a bear. He is calm but if you mess with him, he will hurt you. This dude is always calm. except when he laughs hysterically. Its pretty funny. Being a bear is very apropos for him.
Anywho, I like this concept and have used it when I've had to work get work done late night. Plus, it waaaaay better than being a puma. Thats played out. Just like cougars are. Ha. I shouldn't joke, I might end up being one.
KS
Thanks for the advice Rick Ross! This friend shared his freestyle meditation: Pick one animal you like and imagine yourself taking on certain characteristics of that animal. For example, he is a bear. He is calm but if you mess with him, he will hurt you. This dude is always calm. except when he laughs hysterically. Its pretty funny. Being a bear is very apropos for him.
Anywho, I like this concept and have used it when I've had to work get work done late night. Plus, it waaaaay better than being a puma. Thats played out. Just like cougars are. Ha. I shouldn't joke, I might end up being one.
KS
Thursday, March 25, 2010
SPRING IS HERE!!!!
Yesssss! I love this time of year. No more winter blues! I had a bad case of winter blues this time around, and besides other things, I really do think it has to do with cloudy skies and rain... a typical NorCal winter? Not used to it. I hope spring time in NorCal means sunny days.
Where I come from, San Diego and Santa Barbara, aka the "promise lands" (ha), its warm and sunny everyday...literally. Winter means... nothing. Its nice to experience seasons, but I am fine visiting those places, not having permanent residency there. I like having my golden brown tan all year long (it kinda helps to be Filipino). I don't want to have to carry a jacket around everyday "just in case." I love to see the shine shining and feel warm. People are happier when the sun shines, including me.
Spring also means new beginnings. Although January 1st is a day when people vow to better their lives, its all talk about what they want to do. Now that the sun is out and its Spring, people are motivated to go out and do something about realizing their goals. Work and school goals, love goals, weight goals, any goals are actually being put into action. Now, more people I know have been landing new jobs. I can't tell you how many times I have heard people talking about the new diet she is actually on or new exercise plan she is actually doing. Sun comes out = people make better effort to live healthy = people wear less clothes = everyone looks good = I'm gonna get me some. Yeah!
K
Where I come from, San Diego and Santa Barbara, aka the "promise lands" (ha), its warm and sunny everyday...literally. Winter means... nothing. Its nice to experience seasons, but I am fine visiting those places, not having permanent residency there. I like having my golden brown tan all year long (it kinda helps to be Filipino). I don't want to have to carry a jacket around everyday "just in case." I love to see the shine shining and feel warm. People are happier when the sun shines, including me.
Spring also means new beginnings. Although January 1st is a day when people vow to better their lives, its all talk about what they want to do. Now that the sun is out and its Spring, people are motivated to go out and do something about realizing their goals. Work and school goals, love goals, weight goals, any goals are actually being put into action. Now, more people I know have been landing new jobs. I can't tell you how many times I have heard people talking about the new diet she is actually on or new exercise plan she is actually doing. Sun comes out = people make better effort to live healthy = people wear less clothes = everyone looks good = I'm gonna get me some. Yeah!
K
Monday, February 1, 2010
So long January!
I’ve got whiplash! Twenty-ten just started - didn’t it?
The cool thing about having a birthday on January 2nd is that I get to experience practically the whole year the same age...because there isn’t a whole lot else to celebrate when your birthday follows one of the biggest hang over days of the year.
What I find cool is, I essentially get to wrap my "Fresh Year Approach" with my new age, so I am theoretically, living my new age, 32, somehow more improved over the previous year's model.
This is what is going to make 2010 (say it with me, "twenty-ten, not "two-thousand and ten") better than 2009. I AM GOING TO LET GO.
Isn’t that what our grandmothers told us to do? Why don't we listen to old people?
I seriously have to learn to let go. What the heck am I holding onto bad feelings for? What purpose does the past serve me if the past made me: depressed, angry, anxious, regretful? There is absolutely NOTHING I can do to go back and change things.
I am not saying, I want to ignore everything I've learned up until now, I am saying I want to let the bad sh*t go.
How can I let go of what that "asshole/bitch/whore" has done to me? I have so many more ways to insult them. I have so many acts of revenge to entertain. But why? These people (or perhaps just their actions) who have "wronged" me are draining precious time and mental resources that they don't deserve.
One of the biggest lessons I have learned in the last couple of months (thanks therapist!) is forgiveness, forgiveness of others and most importantly forgiveness of myself. Yikes, that one is hard. I literally cringe thinking of the sh*t I have pulled. Seriously, as I am typing this, I feel embarassed. Its like you can see my embarassments as I am thinking them. And for some of you reading this, you probably have!
I have made some seriously stupid decisions in the last couple of years and at times I have wanted to divorce myself. My decisions have lead to a complete change of who I am, and I am not saying its for the better or worse. But I have changed.
Now what do I do with these changes? Do I desperately pretend like the last few years haven’t happened because I vow to now do better? Because I can’t and that’s okay. What is done is done, what was said was said, my feelings were what they were. I am now learning to accept it all.
What I will do now is accept my feelings and most importantly myself. With all my flaws and all those scary things about myself I would like to pretend don’t exist. They are there, like my brown eyes. They are me. The good, the bad and the ugly.
I apply this to others as well. I recognize that while I struggle, those around me do too. I have found new empathy for others. I am less quick to judge and more willing to listen. I am changed. I am older. I am a work in progress. I am 32.
J
The cool thing about having a birthday on January 2nd is that I get to experience practically the whole year the same age...because there isn’t a whole lot else to celebrate when your birthday follows one of the biggest hang over days of the year.
What I find cool is, I essentially get to wrap my "Fresh Year Approach" with my new age, so I am theoretically, living my new age, 32, somehow more improved over the previous year's model.
This is what is going to make 2010 (say it with me, "twenty-ten, not "two-thousand and ten") better than 2009. I AM GOING TO LET GO.
Isn’t that what our grandmothers told us to do? Why don't we listen to old people?
I seriously have to learn to let go. What the heck am I holding onto bad feelings for? What purpose does the past serve me if the past made me: depressed, angry, anxious, regretful? There is absolutely NOTHING I can do to go back and change things.
I am not saying, I want to ignore everything I've learned up until now, I am saying I want to let the bad sh*t go.
How can I let go of what that "asshole/bitch/whore" has done to me? I have so many more ways to insult them. I have so many acts of revenge to entertain. But why? These people (or perhaps just their actions) who have "wronged" me are draining precious time and mental resources that they don't deserve.
One of the biggest lessons I have learned in the last couple of months (thanks therapist!) is forgiveness, forgiveness of others and most importantly forgiveness of myself. Yikes, that one is hard. I literally cringe thinking of the sh*t I have pulled. Seriously, as I am typing this, I feel embarassed. Its like you can see my embarassments as I am thinking them. And for some of you reading this, you probably have!
I have made some seriously stupid decisions in the last couple of years and at times I have wanted to divorce myself. My decisions have lead to a complete change of who I am, and I am not saying its for the better or worse. But I have changed.
Now what do I do with these changes? Do I desperately pretend like the last few years haven’t happened because I vow to now do better? Because I can’t and that’s okay. What is done is done, what was said was said, my feelings were what they were. I am now learning to accept it all.
What I will do now is accept my feelings and most importantly myself. With all my flaws and all those scary things about myself I would like to pretend don’t exist. They are there, like my brown eyes. They are me. The good, the bad and the ugly.
I apply this to others as well. I recognize that while I struggle, those around me do too. I have found new empathy for others. I am less quick to judge and more willing to listen. I am changed. I am older. I am a work in progress. I am 32.
J
Friday, January 8, 2010
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Happy 2010!
Men! This is the topic I’ve been dreading to bring up, but I know the stories of dating, hooking up, and relationships are what intrigue people. So, here I go…
Yeah right! Like I’m going to discuss the juicy details of my private life There are some things I keep private. I’ll say this: I’m trying to get over an incident that happened with this guy a few months ago. Maybe against my better judgment, after a month of no contact, I have allowed him back into my life. Honestly, the positives outweigh the negatives. He is fun, affectionate; he is a good conversationalist; he is intelligent, and the chemistry esta muy caliente! Despite these positive attributes, I am grounded in reality and well aware what to expect from this man.
Because of my choice, it has been difficult to trust him. I began asking him dumb questions. I felt like I was becoming that type of weak girl I can’t stand or respect…. an insecure one. Sure, I have really weak moments, but in general, I am a confident person. He knows this. To mitigate the damage, he says and does things to make me “feel better,” which surprises me. He is actually doing good work. However, this is only half the battle. I have to work on myself as well. I am learning to not sweat the small stuff.
I know what I have to do: continue living my life; leave the past in the past; not worry about what may happen; not question him all the time. I can only control myself and my actions. Although I know all of this, I don’t know how exactly the steps, or the process, to achieve this mindset and keep true to it…all the time. So, I called up my good friend, Jenny. I recited all of the above to her and asked, “How do I do it?” She said, “Fuck it.” Simple and to the point.
She is so right. All I can do to get over the past is to acknowledge the incident and keep my ass moving forward. I am happy and at peace and will not continuously worry, with or without him. So fuck it. I’m choosing to put my energy into the positives so I remain happy and know that really...he is not going to be around forever.
K
Yeah right! Like I’m going to discuss the juicy details of my private life There are some things I keep private. I’ll say this: I’m trying to get over an incident that happened with this guy a few months ago. Maybe against my better judgment, after a month of no contact, I have allowed him back into my life. Honestly, the positives outweigh the negatives. He is fun, affectionate; he is a good conversationalist; he is intelligent, and the chemistry esta muy caliente! Despite these positive attributes, I am grounded in reality and well aware what to expect from this man.
Because of my choice, it has been difficult to trust him. I began asking him dumb questions. I felt like I was becoming that type of weak girl I can’t stand or respect…. an insecure one. Sure, I have really weak moments, but in general, I am a confident person. He knows this. To mitigate the damage, he says and does things to make me “feel better,” which surprises me. He is actually doing good work. However, this is only half the battle. I have to work on myself as well. I am learning to not sweat the small stuff.
I know what I have to do: continue living my life; leave the past in the past; not worry about what may happen; not question him all the time. I can only control myself and my actions. Although I know all of this, I don’t know how exactly the steps, or the process, to achieve this mindset and keep true to it…all the time. So, I called up my good friend, Jenny. I recited all of the above to her and asked, “How do I do it?” She said, “Fuck it.” Simple and to the point.
She is so right. All I can do to get over the past is to acknowledge the incident and keep my ass moving forward. I am happy and at peace and will not continuously worry, with or without him. So fuck it. I’m choosing to put my energy into the positives so I remain happy and know that really...he is not going to be around forever.
K
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Fa la la la laaaaa
Christmas is on what day again?
Is it me or has the "spirit" of Christmas vaporized? Maybe I am too old for Christmas.
Maybe I am Scrooging early in life because I don't ever honestly remember believing in Santa Claus, so I am like the equivalent of a 80 year old bachelor.
Here is my disclaimer. Neither, myself or husband have kids, together or otherwise, so I can imagine that those with children probably have a whole different take on the season, at least it appears that way on Facebook. Now don't get me wrong, I think if I had a kid, I would not be writing this blog entry as you are about to read it. It would probably read something like, "Oh Santa! I believe! something, something, something, Christmas Rocks!"
I think Christmas started becoming a chore once my Christmas shopping list started onto a second column and my paycheck just laughed. Never mind the financial dent Christmas makes but then there is the time spent trying to find the perfect gift. Then, after all of the stress of finding a suitable gift, it sometimes ends in the awkward moment when you realized you didn't quite find it.
I love to give, I really do but its not like the people on my list were people who were in need or would be getting just my gift for Christmas. I was just one of many people who would be contributing to their Christmas loot. The big gift exchange also started becoming less interesting and more like:
Q: "What do you want?
A: "Oh nothing...or a new skillet, and here is the store and product number."
To which I replied, "Cool." Because this made my life easier.
Why was I even wrapping it? What fun is that?
Tony and I don't exchange gifts, and haven't for the last eight Christmas' we've shared. I found my Christmas soul mate when I suggested for the first time that we give ourselves a Christmas break and not add each other to our respective lists and he breathed a sigh of relief and said something to the effect of "hell, yeah." In fact for the last three years we have bowed out of the whole gift giving hooplah with our families. I think our families appreciate taking two people off their lists. Or so I hope. I really can't see anyone saying, "BUT, I NEED TO BUY MORE GIFTS!"
What is sad is that for the first time I find myself not finding joy in things I used to really enjoy about Christmas. In the past I loved the whole tree thing (even without the prettily wrapped presents underneath), I loved the ornaments, the decorations, the cheesey holiday music, I really dug the Christmas vibe, minus the commercialism. I have no idea what happened, I have no tree this year, I haven't even played Frank Sinatra or Dean Martin (my Christmas music).
I will take the day off to enjoy my family. But I didn't need Christmas for that.
Maybe there is hope for me yet. I do love holiday cards. I am a huge fan. I love seeing all your kids mugging for the camera, your cats and dogs wearing ridiculous sweaters, and for those who write a personal message, you seriously make my day. I shit you not, I drive home looking forward to checking the mail in December in hopes of finding one of these gems. So there. The idea of Christmas is not totally lost on me. Turning 30 just seemed to make me forget where I put the holiday spirit, old age I guess...
Okay, besides cards, I do enjoy a good reindeer sweater and a sincere hug.
J
Is it me or has the "spirit" of Christmas vaporized? Maybe I am too old for Christmas.
Maybe I am Scrooging early in life because I don't ever honestly remember believing in Santa Claus, so I am like the equivalent of a 80 year old bachelor.
Here is my disclaimer. Neither, myself or husband have kids, together or otherwise, so I can imagine that those with children probably have a whole different take on the season, at least it appears that way on Facebook. Now don't get me wrong, I think if I had a kid, I would not be writing this blog entry as you are about to read it. It would probably read something like, "Oh Santa! I believe! something, something, something, Christmas Rocks!"
I think Christmas started becoming a chore once my Christmas shopping list started onto a second column and my paycheck just laughed. Never mind the financial dent Christmas makes but then there is the time spent trying to find the perfect gift. Then, after all of the stress of finding a suitable gift, it sometimes ends in the awkward moment when you realized you didn't quite find it.
I love to give, I really do but its not like the people on my list were people who were in need or would be getting just my gift for Christmas. I was just one of many people who would be contributing to their Christmas loot. The big gift exchange also started becoming less interesting and more like:
Q: "What do you want?
A: "Oh nothing...or a new skillet, and here is the store and product number."
To which I replied, "Cool." Because this made my life easier.
Why was I even wrapping it? What fun is that?
Tony and I don't exchange gifts, and haven't for the last eight Christmas' we've shared. I found my Christmas soul mate when I suggested for the first time that we give ourselves a Christmas break and not add each other to our respective lists and he breathed a sigh of relief and said something to the effect of "hell, yeah." In fact for the last three years we have bowed out of the whole gift giving hooplah with our families. I think our families appreciate taking two people off their lists. Or so I hope. I really can't see anyone saying, "BUT, I NEED TO BUY MORE GIFTS!"
What is sad is that for the first time I find myself not finding joy in things I used to really enjoy about Christmas. In the past I loved the whole tree thing (even without the prettily wrapped presents underneath), I loved the ornaments, the decorations, the cheesey holiday music, I really dug the Christmas vibe, minus the commercialism. I have no idea what happened, I have no tree this year, I haven't even played Frank Sinatra or Dean Martin (my Christmas music).
I will take the day off to enjoy my family. But I didn't need Christmas for that.
Maybe there is hope for me yet. I do love holiday cards. I am a huge fan. I love seeing all your kids mugging for the camera, your cats and dogs wearing ridiculous sweaters, and for those who write a personal message, you seriously make my day. I shit you not, I drive home looking forward to checking the mail in December in hopes of finding one of these gems. So there. The idea of Christmas is not totally lost on me. Turning 30 just seemed to make me forget where I put the holiday spirit, old age I guess...
Okay, besides cards, I do enjoy a good reindeer sweater and a sincere hug.
J
Friday, December 11, 2009
"If it ain't broke, don't fix it."
Wrinkles and moles. Adult acne? Signs of aging. I know I look young for my age, mainly from the gasps of surprise (or horror) when I tell a person my age. Some reactions are hilarious.
It is not funny when I push my face up to a mirror and scour over every millimeter of my face to assess the changes, aka “damage.” Although I do not have too many wrinkles, I am noticing the faint line indentations around my mouth from smiling and laughing, which I guess is a good thing. A sign of happiness!
Little moles or sun spots are appearing. Its probably from me loving to be out in the sun, especially in SoCal. Can’t help it! The weather is PERFECT and the beaches are amazing.
Zits. I have no clue why the hell I am getting so many zits. My face never used to erupt like this. It may be due to some stress, but the reason is most likely that my hormones are in changing. I swear they come like clockwork right before my monthly “call for duty.” As if that is not bad enough.
So… A friend of mine gave me some samples of Retin-A, which I keep hearing good things about from other women. She warned me that it will really dry my face out. Did I listen? Not really. I smeared the stuff around my eyes, on my little moles, and a zit. Now, my face is super dry, peeling, and some more little zits have sprouted. I made it worse. When I later spoke to my friend about it, she confessed that Retin-A makes your skin worse before making it better, because it draws all the impurities up. Wonderful. What am I doing? Women of my ethnicity have never used Retin-A, and look at them. That Filipino girl you think is 19 years old, she’s really 45. I should just stick to what I know: soap, water, and a light face lotion.
Learning how to age gracefully… hit and miss (mess?) situations that keep me grounded.
K
It is not funny when I push my face up to a mirror and scour over every millimeter of my face to assess the changes, aka “damage.” Although I do not have too many wrinkles, I am noticing the faint line indentations around my mouth from smiling and laughing, which I guess is a good thing. A sign of happiness!
Little moles or sun spots are appearing. Its probably from me loving to be out in the sun, especially in SoCal. Can’t help it! The weather is PERFECT and the beaches are amazing.
Zits. I have no clue why the hell I am getting so many zits. My face never used to erupt like this. It may be due to some stress, but the reason is most likely that my hormones are in changing. I swear they come like clockwork right before my monthly “call for duty.” As if that is not bad enough.
So… A friend of mine gave me some samples of Retin-A, which I keep hearing good things about from other women. She warned me that it will really dry my face out. Did I listen? Not really. I smeared the stuff around my eyes, on my little moles, and a zit. Now, my face is super dry, peeling, and some more little zits have sprouted. I made it worse. When I later spoke to my friend about it, she confessed that Retin-A makes your skin worse before making it better, because it draws all the impurities up. Wonderful. What am I doing? Women of my ethnicity have never used Retin-A, and look at them. That Filipino girl you think is 19 years old, she’s really 45. I should just stick to what I know: soap, water, and a light face lotion.
Learning how to age gracefully… hit and miss (mess?) situations that keep me grounded.
K
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Gracias
Special time to enjoy family and friends and celebrate love, good health, happiness, spirituality, and inner peace. Extra gratitude to have all of this in my life!
Happy Thanksgiving!
K
Happy Thanksgiving!
K
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
A voice of reason
I have been reconsidering the focus of my MBA program. I was recently sitting in an Intro to Human Resources (my current focus) class when I thought that I may be doing the wrong thing. The lecture topics are not interesting to me. I am not excited about going to this class (other than meeting with my groupmates). I just do not feel challenged. Am I limiting myself by concentrating to an industry that consists of a small community? Am I focusing in one very specific area? YES and YES.
Earlier this week, I met with a student advisor (who I have met with before) about my aforementioned thoughts. A clear direction was not defined during this meeting. I had a ton of questions and I was given standardized, vague answers for each. Uhhh…really? Is this part of the “all inclusive service” for which I am taking out a shit ton of loans? I was pretty disappointed and unsatisfied afterwards. Then I met with a professor about an assignment.
This meeting turned into the best MBA coaching session ever. The Prof laid it out for me and strongly advised I change my major. He emphasized my potential, high marketability, and value to a company because I will be able to manage on many different levels, giving me more opportunity.
I unexpectedly voiced my fears to the Prof. I have no substantial experience in the areas of finance and marketing and that it is going to take a lot of hard work. He helped me realize that’s the beauty of going back to school. I am in control of learning what I want. He also reinforced that I have to work hard to get what I want, which goes for anything in life.
I needed the definitive push from someone knowledgeable to realize my thoughts are on the right track. Sometimes it takes a “voice of reason” to solidify an instinct.
K
Earlier this week, I met with a student advisor (who I have met with before) about my aforementioned thoughts. A clear direction was not defined during this meeting. I had a ton of questions and I was given standardized, vague answers for each. Uhhh…really? Is this part of the “all inclusive service” for which I am taking out a shit ton of loans? I was pretty disappointed and unsatisfied afterwards. Then I met with a professor about an assignment.
This meeting turned into the best MBA coaching session ever. The Prof laid it out for me and strongly advised I change my major. He emphasized my potential, high marketability, and value to a company because I will be able to manage on many different levels, giving me more opportunity.
I unexpectedly voiced my fears to the Prof. I have no substantial experience in the areas of finance and marketing and that it is going to take a lot of hard work. He helped me realize that’s the beauty of going back to school. I am in control of learning what I want. He also reinforced that I have to work hard to get what I want, which goes for anything in life.
I needed the definitive push from someone knowledgeable to realize my thoughts are on the right track. Sometimes it takes a “voice of reason” to solidify an instinct.
K
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Not so bad after all!
A guy I know of had a job where he went on business trips overseas. During those trips, he occasionally scheduled in a round of golf. One place he has golfed at includes a three star golf course in DR Congo, Africa. At that golf course (name I do not recall), there is a guy whose job is to collect golf balls in the alligator infested lakes. I was told he was paid one Congolese franc (CDF) per ball he collects. YIKES. As of today, $1 CDF equals $0.002986 USD. Not even 1 cent USD. And why am I complaining about my job?
Talk about perspective! I do not like my current job, but at least my ass isn’t wading in dangerous waters to collect worthless golf balls shanked by bad golfers. And even though I do not like my job, here are some truths…
1. I have met some really cool people!
2. I am not going to be at this job forever.
3. It’s only a means to an end.
4. I know how NOT to treat employees, i.e., I am learning a lot about ineffective management styles.
5. My mindless job allows me to reserve energy and brain power for my coursework. Now I have the good grades I strive for.
This list of positives is longer, but I have to stop here and study before I wake up at the crack of dawn for work…
K
Talk about perspective! I do not like my current job, but at least my ass isn’t wading in dangerous waters to collect worthless golf balls shanked by bad golfers. And even though I do not like my job, here are some truths…
1. I have met some really cool people!
2. I am not going to be at this job forever.
3. It’s only a means to an end.
4. I know how NOT to treat employees, i.e., I am learning a lot about ineffective management styles.
5. My mindless job allows me to reserve energy and brain power for my coursework. Now I have the good grades I strive for.
This list of positives is longer, but I have to stop here and study before I wake up at the crack of dawn for work…
K
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Sunny Side Ups (J)
I was hanging out with my in laws over the weekend and someone asked me how I was doing. Before I could utter my stock response of "good" my husband interjected "Have you read her blog?" And this was said in a somewhat sarcastic tone. I could not help but wince. Have I made my life sound so tragic?
Granted, I am frustrated with where I am right now professionally and personally but in no way do I want to come off as ungrateful or less than satisfied with my life overall. So let me start this week’s blog with some solid reasons why I am utterly grateful to be me.
1. I have my health. I know that sounds cliche but it is true. I rarely get sick and all of my limbs work. (Knock on wood.)
2. I dig my husband. He is smart, good looking, funny as hell and good natured. He is my favorite.
3. I have potential. I don’t look too bad on paper. I have a JD, I came from a decent college, "Go Gauchos," and I am not afraid of hard work.
4. I have a starter house. Its got more corners than I know what to do with and some awful fixtures and the most horrendous cabinet doors I have ever seen but all-in-all it’s a cute house with tons of potential.
5. My friends are cool. Seriously, I am so impressed with every single friend of mine. I can turn to any one of them for a hearty laugh or a serious dose of wisdom. They are geniuses by the way. I swear all of my friends are 10 times smarter than myself, but that is another topic...
6. Last but not least, my family rocks. Most of the time. Well most of them do.
Now ask me what I was grateful 10 years ago and it probably would have went something like this.
1. $1.50 margarita and free appetizers at El Paseo
2. Clearing $60 in tips.
3. Passing my classes.
4. My fast metabolism. I seriously lived on Bud Light, $4 champagne, pasta and bagels for 4 years.
5. Roommates that paid the rent.
I wonder how my list will change 10 years from now?
J
Granted, I am frustrated with where I am right now professionally and personally but in no way do I want to come off as ungrateful or less than satisfied with my life overall. So let me start this week’s blog with some solid reasons why I am utterly grateful to be me.
1. I have my health. I know that sounds cliche but it is true. I rarely get sick and all of my limbs work. (Knock on wood.)
2. I dig my husband. He is smart, good looking, funny as hell and good natured. He is my favorite.
3. I have potential. I don’t look too bad on paper. I have a JD, I came from a decent college, "Go Gauchos," and I am not afraid of hard work.
4. I have a starter house. Its got more corners than I know what to do with and some awful fixtures and the most horrendous cabinet doors I have ever seen but all-in-all it’s a cute house with tons of potential.
5. My friends are cool. Seriously, I am so impressed with every single friend of mine. I can turn to any one of them for a hearty laugh or a serious dose of wisdom. They are geniuses by the way. I swear all of my friends are 10 times smarter than myself, but that is another topic...
6. Last but not least, my family rocks. Most of the time. Well most of them do.
Now ask me what I was grateful 10 years ago and it probably would have went something like this.
1. $1.50 margarita and free appetizers at El Paseo
2. Clearing $60 in tips.
3. Passing my classes.
4. My fast metabolism. I seriously lived on Bud Light, $4 champagne, pasta and bagels for 4 years.
5. Roommates that paid the rent.
I wonder how my list will change 10 years from now?
J
Sunny Side Ups (K)
Listen… I do not mean to sound like a woe-is-me bitch baby. There is a very bright side to being 30. I have learned lots of things that make the life of a gal in her 30s more interesting. First of all, I have become way more perceptive of people. I think much of this has come from meeting people in the restaurant and bar industry, but more from meeting people by immersing myself in new situations, i.e., new city, grad school programs, new jobs, etc. I have learned to really listen to a person and hone in on his character, not in a judgmental way, but just to get a better understanding of a that person. It’s a fun guessing game I like play. For example, an acquaintance asked me to guess his age. I guessed he was between 22-25 years old. Correct, he is 25. I asked why he wanted me to guess and he replied that there was no reason. I immediately asked him if he liked an older woman. His jaw dropped. It was just something I sensed. It ends up that he is interested in a woman in her early thirties. Weird! In general, I really enjoy meeting new people and hearing of their experiences and learning more about them.
Second, I am learning that planning everything out is not the best mode of operation. I used to plan out every little detail and if things did not work out as planned, I felt stressed. I felt like I did not have control if my expectations were not met. Now, I try to look at situations not imagining the way they will play out, but instead, I tell myself that things will just work out. In April, I remember when my job at the law firm was coming to a close, I was stressing out looking for another job In San Diego. I had it in my head that I wanted to spend one more summer by the beach before committing myself to B-school. I literally woke up one Monday morning and asked myself what the hell am I doing? Wasting time was my answer. I got on the phone and by the end of the week; I was enrolled in the business program beginning summer 2009. The beach will be there for me to return to. I am allowing things to fall into place…sloooowly but surely. Becoming more flexible has been very good for me.
One more thing. On a recent road trip with Jenny, where I was driving, I was pulled over by the CHP. I knew the second I saw the pretty purple and red lights dancing in the rear view mirror that I was getting a speeding ticket. As the officer took my license back to his patrol car, Jenny and I started rationalizing out the situation, which turned into hysterical laughter. Of course, we had missed the 41 freeway that connects the 5 freeway to the 101 because we ignored the voice of the Garmin GPS. We kept looking at the internet directions we wrote down and confused ourselves by having too much information. Of course, I was pulled over by the CHP that I had "luckily" spotted miles before, right before we decided to we turn off to get food & gas. There is no doubt about the consequences. Fine and online traffic school (I hope its that simple). If I were younger and in the same situation, I know would be scared and worrying myself sick about it. Now, I accept it for what it is. I was not paying attention and my dumbass was driving too fast too furious on the way to a bachelorette party in Santa Barbara. Life goes on. There is no point in obsessively worrying about it. Worrying is a part of human nature, possibly a quality prone more to women than men. But, excessive worrying is a waste of energy. I am learning to pull myself out of that frame of mind and focus at what is really important. On this day, it was about having a good time with old college friends. I was not going to let a small setback ruin an amazing weekend.
These are only a few aspects that keep me cool at 30 something. Great sex… this is another blog for another day…maybe. Cheers!
Second, I am learning that planning everything out is not the best mode of operation. I used to plan out every little detail and if things did not work out as planned, I felt stressed. I felt like I did not have control if my expectations were not met. Now, I try to look at situations not imagining the way they will play out, but instead, I tell myself that things will just work out. In April, I remember when my job at the law firm was coming to a close, I was stressing out looking for another job In San Diego. I had it in my head that I wanted to spend one more summer by the beach before committing myself to B-school. I literally woke up one Monday morning and asked myself what the hell am I doing? Wasting time was my answer. I got on the phone and by the end of the week; I was enrolled in the business program beginning summer 2009. The beach will be there for me to return to. I am allowing things to fall into place…sloooowly but surely. Becoming more flexible has been very good for me.
One more thing. On a recent road trip with Jenny, where I was driving, I was pulled over by the CHP. I knew the second I saw the pretty purple and red lights dancing in the rear view mirror that I was getting a speeding ticket. As the officer took my license back to his patrol car, Jenny and I started rationalizing out the situation, which turned into hysterical laughter. Of course, we had missed the 41 freeway that connects the 5 freeway to the 101 because we ignored the voice of the Garmin GPS. We kept looking at the internet directions we wrote down and confused ourselves by having too much information. Of course, I was pulled over by the CHP that I had "luckily" spotted miles before, right before we decided to we turn off to get food & gas. There is no doubt about the consequences. Fine and online traffic school (I hope its that simple). If I were younger and in the same situation, I know would be scared and worrying myself sick about it. Now, I accept it for what it is. I was not paying attention and my dumbass was driving too fast too furious on the way to a bachelorette party in Santa Barbara. Life goes on. There is no point in obsessively worrying about it. Worrying is a part of human nature, possibly a quality prone more to women than men. But, excessive worrying is a waste of energy. I am learning to pull myself out of that frame of mind and focus at what is really important. On this day, it was about having a good time with old college friends. I was not going to let a small setback ruin an amazing weekend.
These are only a few aspects that keep me cool at 30 something. Great sex… this is another blog for another day…maybe. Cheers!
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Is 30 really the new 20?
Being 30 and realizing that life at this age is not what you thought it would be or what you strived for…. Ugh!!! Now, we are trying to figure out what we each really want to be, do, and have. The transition from being 20-something to 30-something has been stressful, disheartening, annoying, and a lot of work. Yet, the experience is still exciting, rewarding, and always interesting. So we guess 30 is the new 20 because there is still very much to look forward to.
Dial into our bloggy blog for our experiences and points-of-view on a variety of topics, ranging from jobs & careers, family, relationships, and much much more. We welcome and kindly request you share your comments, insight, and personal stories on our blog. Cheers to figuring life out in our 30s!
Dial into our bloggy blog for our experiences and points-of-view on a variety of topics, ranging from jobs & careers, family, relationships, and much much more. We welcome and kindly request you share your comments, insight, and personal stories on our blog. Cheers to figuring life out in our 30s!
Jenny who?
IM 30, NOW WHAT.
No, seriously, now what???
I want to start of by apologizing.
I’m sorry 18 year old Jenny, I have let you down.
I remember how excited you were at your high school graduation.
You had your whole future before you and you had a PLAN. Which reminds me of my favorite saying, "If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans." (What a nice God by the way...)
So maybe I should stop making them and see what happens because the planning thing has not worked out so well. I am 31 years old and all my well made plans, well, have made other plans...
After graduating high school, I entered UC Santa Barbara as a biology major, and was promptly removed from the department after my first year.
Okay...so I wasn’t going to be a veterinarian...they don’t make that much anyway, and I am going to make money with my big fat Bachelor of Arts degree. Or so I thought. I am pretty sure at 18 I thought I would be rich. Why does every kid in high school think this?
I’m actually an attorney. But still not rich. I’m not exactly sure how it happened. I sure in hell did not plan for this. It’s a blur really, something about 4 years of working full time and studying part time. When all of my friends were enjoying their mid 20s, I was either taking exams and/or crying, attending lectures or studying...that time will be referred to as the most boring period in my life.
The 18 year old Jenny thought everything would have fallen into place by 30. It has not. I even gave myself an extra year, 31, still not quite what I expected.
The 18 year old Jenny thought I would be driving an expensive car. I am now on my third Honda. The 18 year old Jenny also thought she would live somewhere cool...I live in Antelope, California. Cool is over there somewhere.
I did not see myself having children when I was 18, and so far I have not let my 18 year old self down in that department, although 28 year old Jenny is not thrilled with this.
But what I can tell 18 year old Jenny, is that she ends up marrying Tony. Tony tells you 5 years later at a wedding, you know the one, where you were the bridesmaid with the black eye...that he always thought you were cute. Good thing you never knew that in high school, because if you had known, you would have made man-getting-plans and you most likely would have f*cked that up!
So what it comes down to is that sometimes I feel like I am having a third life crisis of sorts...Not sure what my point here on earth is. But I am all for figuring it out!
No, seriously, now what???
I want to start of by apologizing.
I’m sorry 18 year old Jenny, I have let you down.
I remember how excited you were at your high school graduation.
You had your whole future before you and you had a PLAN. Which reminds me of my favorite saying, "If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans." (What a nice God by the way...)
So maybe I should stop making them and see what happens because the planning thing has not worked out so well. I am 31 years old and all my well made plans, well, have made other plans...
After graduating high school, I entered UC Santa Barbara as a biology major, and was promptly removed from the department after my first year.
Okay...so I wasn’t going to be a veterinarian...they don’t make that much anyway, and I am going to make money with my big fat Bachelor of Arts degree. Or so I thought. I am pretty sure at 18 I thought I would be rich. Why does every kid in high school think this?
I’m actually an attorney. But still not rich. I’m not exactly sure how it happened. I sure in hell did not plan for this. It’s a blur really, something about 4 years of working full time and studying part time. When all of my friends were enjoying their mid 20s, I was either taking exams and/or crying, attending lectures or studying...that time will be referred to as the most boring period in my life.
The 18 year old Jenny thought everything would have fallen into place by 30. It has not. I even gave myself an extra year, 31, still not quite what I expected.
The 18 year old Jenny thought I would be driving an expensive car. I am now on my third Honda. The 18 year old Jenny also thought she would live somewhere cool...I live in Antelope, California. Cool is over there somewhere.
I did not see myself having children when I was 18, and so far I have not let my 18 year old self down in that department, although 28 year old Jenny is not thrilled with this.
But what I can tell 18 year old Jenny, is that she ends up marrying Tony. Tony tells you 5 years later at a wedding, you know the one, where you were the bridesmaid with the black eye...that he always thought you were cute. Good thing you never knew that in high school, because if you had known, you would have made man-getting-plans and you most likely would have f*cked that up!
So what it comes down to is that sometimes I feel like I am having a third life crisis of sorts...Not sure what my point here on earth is. But I am all for figuring it out!
Kathy who?
30! Three zero! Thirty years old. Correction…31 years old. WTF! How did time fly by so quickly? Ten years ago, I graduated from college and had just started my new “grown-up” job. After a couple of great years of living and working in Santa Barbara, I made my way back to San Diego. During this time, I worked in the restaurant & bar industry. What a great job for a girl in her mid-twenties! The huge perk was that I worked for a place that threw the biggest parties at the beach. But that is exactly all it ever could be for me.
At age of 28, I started getting antsy. I was not being challenged. Everyday felt the same. I had very strong friendships with many people, but had not yet had a committed relationship. I was bored and frustrated. I knew had more to offer, not just in regards to a job or career, but I felt, and still feel, that I have something more meaningful to contribute to society. This was the beginning of the transition out of my party-girl lifestyle.
So what did I do to get myself out of that sort of lifestyle and into the “real world?” I applied to go back to school. Not just any old school. I did the prep work and application process to go back to law school. By the grace of God, I managed to get into a law school in San Francisco. Boy oh boy, did I have a difficult first year in law school. Now that experience is over, I have learned a lot more about myself. I better understand some of my abilities, some of my limits, and some of my goals. I am only aware of some of the work I have to do on my self. “Some” is the operative word because at this point, I do not know all of my abilities or all of my limits. In challenging myself, I am continually learning new things about myself. More things will change down this super interesting road.
At this time, I am working on my MBA, “Master’s in Blackout Alcoholic.” In all seriousness, I am working on my MBA, Human Resources concentration. I also work part time in retail, something I thought I would never do. But, with the shortage of suitable jobs and the need to make some sort of income without compromising my moral character (I’m sure you catch what I’m throwing down), I work in retail knowing its just a means to an end.
This is an introduction to the blogging bandwagon that my college roommate, Jenny, and I have jumped on together. Although she has a completely different experience than I do, we do have some common ground, mainly not being where we expected to be in our early thirties. The value in writing our perspective is that maybe we can reach other people who are feeling more of the same, and who care to share their story with us, to give us more perspective, but more importantly, to help us feel better about ourselves. Kidding.
Each week, we will pick a topic and offer our experiences and ideas. Hopefully you all enjoy our little ditties. We also hope that you send us feedback and we definitely welcome you to not only follow us, but please participate. We would love to have guest bloggers!
At age of 28, I started getting antsy. I was not being challenged. Everyday felt the same. I had very strong friendships with many people, but had not yet had a committed relationship. I was bored and frustrated. I knew had more to offer, not just in regards to a job or career, but I felt, and still feel, that I have something more meaningful to contribute to society. This was the beginning of the transition out of my party-girl lifestyle.
So what did I do to get myself out of that sort of lifestyle and into the “real world?” I applied to go back to school. Not just any old school. I did the prep work and application process to go back to law school. By the grace of God, I managed to get into a law school in San Francisco. Boy oh boy, did I have a difficult first year in law school. Now that experience is over, I have learned a lot more about myself. I better understand some of my abilities, some of my limits, and some of my goals. I am only aware of some of the work I have to do on my self. “Some” is the operative word because at this point, I do not know all of my abilities or all of my limits. In challenging myself, I am continually learning new things about myself. More things will change down this super interesting road.
At this time, I am working on my MBA, “Master’s in Blackout Alcoholic.” In all seriousness, I am working on my MBA, Human Resources concentration. I also work part time in retail, something I thought I would never do. But, with the shortage of suitable jobs and the need to make some sort of income without compromising my moral character (I’m sure you catch what I’m throwing down), I work in retail knowing its just a means to an end.
This is an introduction to the blogging bandwagon that my college roommate, Jenny, and I have jumped on together. Although she has a completely different experience than I do, we do have some common ground, mainly not being where we expected to be in our early thirties. The value in writing our perspective is that maybe we can reach other people who are feeling more of the same, and who care to share their story with us, to give us more perspective, but more importantly, to help us feel better about ourselves. Kidding.
Each week, we will pick a topic and offer our experiences and ideas. Hopefully you all enjoy our little ditties. We also hope that you send us feedback and we definitely welcome you to not only follow us, but please participate. We would love to have guest bloggers!
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